THAT FEELING OF BEING LOVED!!
Falling in love is perhaps the greatest feeling one can experience. Everything seems to be rosy, the weather suddenly becomes so romantic, the breeze goes past our face as if our lover has sent us flying kisses, the dirty city roads suddenly look oh! So clean, the food looks very tasty and we feel like looking even more beautiful feel like getting dressed in our best attire. Why does it happen??
Why is love such a wonderful emotion??? Why does love make us do things which we possibly can’t think of doing?? Why does everything looks so beautiful??
Well my friends, if you are feeling any of the above things u have just fallen in love. Be ready to face the consequences, be ready to be swept of ur feet, be ready to have sleepless nights, hunger less days, restless evenings and weird comments that people will make on you because u r smiling all the time, which makes them think that you are crazy. YES, THIS IS LOVE!!!!
It comes when you least expect it, it enters ur mind, ur body , ur heart and ur soul without even giving you a prior warning, without telling you-“ Dude be ready, ur life is going to be changed after this”, no, never, this never happens. When love enters ur life it makes it miserable, yes I m saying miserable because, even the most logical person suddenly can’t find logic in anything, the rationality goes out of the window, you feel l as if you can cross a thousand seas, run a million miles, break any concrete walls and fight with any damn creature on the face of the earth, yes this is when love takes over.
The beauty of love is, you get the feeling that you are being cared for, u know there is someone with whom u can share any thought, even the silliest of thing, there is someone is looking out for you, that someone special will take ur name in every breath she takes, that special someone will standby you no matter happens, and more importantly she/he will be there by us in all our successes and failures, in our good, bad and ugly times, to care for us, comfort us and soothe us with all their love.
I have a heard a zillion definitions of love, but as I see it, love is that unknown feeling in which you don’t expect anything in return- but just the care and affection, u just wana be with ur lover no matter what happens, you don’t see their status, there looks, their clothes, their hair or anything for that matter, what matters is there heart. For me I would be very happy if my love is being respected and reciprocated. Understanding is a key in any relationship, if she is understanding my situations, my feelings then I don’t think I want anything else in he relationship.
Coming to another aspect of love called as UNDERSTANDING and ADJUSTMENT.
I am a person with many mood swings, its like the weather which changes every now and then, and to bear with me, I need someone who does not push me around, and try and change me all the time, saying “ y cant u be a little more caring”, “ y cant u do this, why can’t u that….Y are you always like this, Why can’t we go out do this,….Why does it always have to be like this……!!!!
I mean come on, why do girls put so many questions, and if they don’t like us in so many ways, why did they get hooked up with us in the first place. I ask, What is this han? Is it some kinda of syndrome of hating everything that a boy does or what? We all know that GUYS AND GALS are different, and think differently and act differently, but isn’t LOVE ABOUT UNDERSTANDING THE DIFFERENCES OF EACH OTHER….
The whole philosophy of love sometimes just amazes me. No matter how much u think u have understood why u love the other person, u sure wouldn’t be able to explain why exactly u love them. I understand that it’s an attraction which may be physical, mental or u may b attracted because u like there smile, their hair, their hands, their charm or because she makes u laugh or may be because u feel the most comfortable when u r around them, or because they are rich and famous and powerful or beautiful, but is that it..???
Supposing one day u wake up and don’t find their jokes funny enough, their talks interesting enough, or their looks have faded away, and smile is all wrinkly, their bodies not sexy enough, then, then what?? Is that the end of your love?? Will u then not b attracted to them anymore? Will you stop loving them then? And then are u gona look for a new lover ? Will u then leave them forever?
The answer is ofcource is NO, right? I m conforming it again, the answer is NO right??- I am asking it again coz the mentality these days( 2009) is if he/she aint beautiful, not rich, not funny, is complex, then let them go to hell, we’ll move on. But then that is not love, that was just infatuation, that was this temporary feeling which is a lot like love but isn’t exactly love. Things are so temporary these days that one day it is on and the other day it is off!! U ask your friends so how’s BHABHIJI( GF) or how’s ur boyfriend and the reply u get is which bf/gf are asking about, the one I had last year, or last month or last week!!!:) That’s the kinda “”SHELF LIFE”” relationships have these days.
Every relationship comes with an EXPIRY date, some expire in a few months some last a lifetime. All this depends on the emotional investment u have made in the relationship. How much care have u put in the relationship, how much understanding and time and closeness u have shared in the relationship, that determines how long ur relationship will last, be it friendship, courtship or marriage for that matter. If u r giving your time, you are sharing ur thoughts, understanding them, giving them your care and doing things for them out of love, deep down inside you definatly expect that in return, if not all then a good fraction of it.
I believe It is almost absurd to say that love is selfless, and that we don’t expect anything in return, I can die for the one I love, I can fight with the whole world, I don’t want him/her to do everything that I do for them, I can live without them all my life and see them happy with someone else. I mean come on, is that true? Can u actually do that? Can u see your love walk hand in hand with someone else, kiss the other person, make love with them, care for them, adore them, pour all their love and affection for them, when in fact it should be u who deserves all that. Frankly speaking I would be shattered if that happens. I would think “ WHAT HAVE I DONE TO DESEVRV THIS?” am I not worthy enough to be loved back, don’t I deserve her love? Why did I fall in love with her in the first place? But my friend if it was in your in hand to choose with whom u would fall in love then everyone would happy and content.
Falling in love or out of it, is just destiny . But the feeling of being loved and cared for is an out of the world feeling, the world goes upside down, and same happens when we fall out of it, the world actually goes upside down, the earth seems to rotate in the opposite direction, the weather suddenly changes into FALL, the clouds start to make the days even more gloomy, u feel miserable, pathetic and uncared for , as if there’s no one for u in the world, the pain is almost as if u have been detected with a tumour which has shattered your small world into pieces. But as they say time is the best healer, this numbness, and pain would eventually fade away, and earth would rotate like it always does, the flowers will blossom again, the clouds of gloom will fade away, and you will, yes u will again fall in love. We all have are share of love allocated to us by god, and we will get it no matter how many partners we’ll have, yes, yes u read it right. I might be sounding like a serial dater or polygamist, But I don’t mean that, what I m saying is U will get all the love in the world, u just have to be true your partner and love them back if you want true happiness of being loved or else keep wandering all your life in search for a feeling called LOVE!!!
